When I think of Super Woman and Wonder Woman, I think of these strong women, with superhuman powers, who can take on the world single handedly. Who can overcome anything that comes before them and anyone that stands in their way. I see them walking away from the carnage relatively unscathed, with merely a bit of dirt on their cheek… all in a days work.
I use to aspire to be like them. I have even referred to myself as one of them… “Super Woman, at it again”. Others have and still do call me Wonder Woman or Super Woman and I’ve always felt so proud of that.
But what I’ve come to realise is that I am not Super Woman or Wonder Woman. And that by aspiring to be, I’m setting myself up for failure.
When sh!t hits the fan, I don’t come out unscathed. I don’t have magical powers that instantly heal my wounds… but oh damn I wish I did! Because if I did, the healing wouldn’t hurt so much! And something this Breast Cancer and my Dad’s passing has taught me, is that as well as physical healing, I have a whole lot of inner healing to do and it’s not going to be a pretty journey. It won’t come without heart ache and pain. But it is going to be a blessing! I’m going to grow, I’m going to learn, I’m going to be free… and that is far more powerful than any quick fixing superpower!
What I also know, is that I can’t do life on my own. I don’t want to do it on my own. I know it takes a community and certainly at times like these, we need community. But by pretending to be Superhuman, I automatically cut out the possibilities of building that community of people around me. Because my ego tells me “Super Woman never asks for help because that would show she’s vulnerable and she ain’t vulnerable”. So by removing my cape, I give myself full permission to be vulnerable. To be HUMAN. To accept that I don’t know everything… and that is ok! That it’s good to ask for and accept help from others and that other’s can help me on my healing journey.
As a Woman. A Human being. With my own knowledge, willpower and drive but also vulnerability and fear. With the right people in my community, I too can take on the world and I will overcome anything that comes before me. And I will come out the other side scarred and battered, but I will be stronger, I would have lived and learned and I’ll be ready to take on the next challenge that comes my way.
And I hope, that my healing journey helps you with yours.
Aroha mai, aroha atu
Wyn x
Absolutely … I luv this-God bless you Wyndi & your whanau🤗
Thank you Ruta xx
Beautifully said….you remind me of a Superwoman friend I have who is also battling breast cancer…strong and independent. You are both extremely inspirational.
I am with the Samoa Cancer Society and it is never easy to face someone with cancer and pray that you have the rights words to say to them…to give them the courage and the will to fight this terrible disease.
Your written thoughts are the same sentiments my superwoman friend continues to share with her family, friends and her people too. You are both inspirational and God bless you both.
This was just so beautiful to read and such a great outlook in tough times, exactly the mindset of a superwoman. Like you said, you will come through scarred and battered but stronger as you have lived and learned. And don’t forget to laugh – it’s medicine for the soul. Let me know when your available for coffee. From my family to yours much love! Alofa Tess.